Incidentals...

[fajrdrako]

I don't want to live. I want to love first, then live incidentally. - Zelda Fitzgerald

I'm not sure how 'incidental' my life is, but this sounds like a good recipe for happiness, if I read it right - a sort of Zen approach, where love is appreciation and acceptance, not desire and demand. Love expands and enhances. Life... goes its own way.

Though the sentence "I don't want to live," sounds suicidal or nihilistic, taken out of context.

All different ways of saying, "A loving person gets more out of life than a person who is mostly focussed on him or herself." But my goodness, it can be so difficult to break out of cycles of emotional need.

Comments

[chazzbanner.livejournal.com]

Zen..ish, as Charlie Crews would say. :-)

[fajrdrako.livejournal.com]

My goodness yes. Charlie has such a way with words.

[duncanmac.livejournal.com]

I think I would interpret that as I don't want to just live.

I'm not sure I would interpret that as "Zen-ish" ... but my knowledge of Zen is incomplete, so I speak here under correction.

But my goodness, it can be so difficult to break out of cycles of emotional need.

Too true ... I'm not happy being single, but I honestly do not know anyone who would want to be "paired" with me. That too will pass -- once I find a new job, and all that.

[fajrdrako.livejournal.com]

'm not sure I would interpret that as "Zen-ish" .

Have you seen Life? It puts a whole different spin on the concept.

My point was that it was rather Buddhist to accept and love without differentiation or judgement.

Good luck with the 'single' situation!

[mad-jaks.livejournal.com]

I like your interpretation - it's very *Jack*

[fajrdrako.livejournal.com]

Jack's psyche and my psyche are closely aligned - or so I often think. It's one reason for me to love the man so much.