My new year's resolutions...

[fajrdrako]

So: 2008 has come, and it looks as snowy as 2007 did. I am about to spend some time doing yoga. But first - a little fanfare here - my New Year's Resolutions.

I always take great joy in making my New Year's Resolution. I had a good set for last year but did an unusually bad job of keeping them. The year before last, I did well.

Usually I try to be creative, and make them somewhat different each year; otherwise they aren't new resolutions, are they? The trick is to be fresh and different in approach, even if I'm struggling with the same old things. (Floss teeth. Lose weight.) This year I tried a sort of random form; not sentences but points. Some of them are things to actually do - for instance, dance, something for me to do daily. Others are just reminders of an approach to life: attack-escape for tasks and problems, carpe diem for daily activity and opportunity. Some are vaguely cryptic: "bed", for example, means "make the bed every morning when I get up" - not as exciting as other possibilities, but one doesn't need to make resolutions about exciting things. They have a life of their own.

The items:

Attack-escape
Be brave
Bed
Carpe diem
Dance
Dishes
Exercise
Floss teeth
Housework
Latin
Laundry
Make a wish
Meditate
Never procrastinate
Prioritize
Punctuality
Skin cream
Unclutter
Vacuum
Walk
Water
Work
Write
Write to Papa
Yoga

Comments

[wijsgeer.livejournal.com]

quite a list,

but bed for making the bed is indeed quite unexciting, can't it be about taking someone to bed? (my own desires creeping in).

I secretely want to be able to want to take someone to bed. But for some reason the idea of physical intimacy is still abhorrent to me and it is getting to bother me more and more. I want my old self back, at least partly.

My new years resolutions can be divided in inside and outside ones. And I don't mean inside me, but insde the house, like keeping my house more or less tidy and to study and outside, like going to the gym, but also to concerts or lectures. To be among people. Venture out of my comfort zone.

Good luck with your set :-)

[fajrdrako.livejournal.com]

can't it be about taking someone to bed?

I certainly like that idea - I can work on it!

I hope you get your old self back. I love the idea of physical intimacy, I just have to fine someone to cooperate.

I like your way of dividing your resolutions. Good luck with it! I'd like to go to more concerts, but I can't afford much - resolutions to be trifty come first.

[wijsgeer.livejournal.com]

I love the idea of physical intimacy, I just have to fine someone to cooperate.

hihi, is it that bad that you have to walk around in uniform and hand out tickets? It does certainly set your intimacy off on a specific footing :-)

I'd like to go to more concerts, but I can't afford much - resolutions to be trifty come first.

Overhere (Amsterdam specifically) there are free (or very cheap, a few euro) concerts regulary. They are fun, I should just go. Unfortunately, no one I know wants or can join me, either they don't like the type of music (experimental) or they work in the evening or they don't live in Amsterdam. So I have to go by myself and that can be an extra hurdle.
I should also have added to the outdoors section "going to museums". I have a museumcard so all visits (except special exhibitions) are free. No reason not to pop into a museum when I feel bored or unproductive, even just 30 minutes and 1 artwork that speaks to me will do me good.

[fajrdrako.livejournal.com]

Tickets... now, there's an idea! No, my basic problem is being shy. Not sexually shy, just socially shy.

Yes, getting up the energy to go to a concert by oneself is difficult.

How wonderful to have a museum card! At $20 for the special exhibits now, I'm careful about when I go to museums and what I go to see. I used to go all the time when it was free, or cheaper. But now - I have to stop and think before spending $20. And then I don't go.

I think I can still go into the art gallery for free on Thursday evenings, but I seldom feel motivated. Which is a pity, because I love it when I do go.

[wijsgeer.livejournal.com]

Shy?

You know I've never picture you as shy? You seem to have so many friends and such an active social life. I sit here alone, doing most of the things by myself, envious of those who have more people in their life (and I even have very good and dear friends, they are just not available for many things).

[fajrdrako.livejournal.com]

Yes, I have a lot of friends, and I do a lot of things with them - and I'm not shy with them. But with people I don't know so well, or with strangers, I'm terribly shy. It's alifelong battle to overcome it.

[wijsgeer.livejournal.com]

But you did get those friends, you must have overcome it somehow (or did they acquire you?).
I am shy and overconfident at times. I generaly come across as quite extrovert.

[fajrdrako.livejournal.com]

Oh, I have learned to cope with my shyness.... in various ways. And I've found a great bunch of people, mostly through fandom. So, yes, I've overcome my shyness enough to be able to get beyond it on a regular basis. But it's still there.

[filkferengi]

That's what the local university [ies] are for; don't they have free concerts?

Our local community college-cum-university used to have an early music ensemble, which rocked [especially the theorbo!], but they seem to have discontinued it of late.

Cool resolutions!

[dewline.livejournal.com]

Item two puts me in mind of the Dead Dog Cafe (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_dog_cafe).

[fajrdrako.livejournal.com]

Works for me!