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[fajrdrako]

A post worth remembering - fabu's LJ entry this evening. About self-actualization: not a phrase I like, but I put it in other words - learning to be myself.

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[wijsgeer.livejournal.com]

I read the list.
I am doubtfull. I mean, they all sound nice, but doing it truly?

For some reason it reminds me of a hypomanic state. That is all risc all idea of being honest (even if it hurts people tremendously, needlessly, why tell strangers on the street that you think them disgustingly ugly?) all idea of being total and vivid.

I know the makers of this list did not have the out of control state off hypomania in mind, but nevertheless, Having experienced hypomania I am more appreciative of the small life, of risc avoiding, not so much of being dishonest but going along in a social game. (I still have more than average moments I blurt out totally out of context remarks, that sometimes hurt people.)

So, yes I can see the attraction, but I see some drawbacks as well. (but as said, that maybe primarily background related)

[fajrdrako.livejournal.com]

I see the attraction, but I see it as more of a rare goal to keep in mind than something that is psychologically feasible. It's like saying "here's how to be clever" or "here's how to be happy", but following the steps isn't going to create happines or cleverness. And that 'self-actualization', whatever that may be, is an individual journey that's going to be different for anyone.

I don't think it's a sustainable state. I think even the most self-actualized among us are going to wake up some days wondering where their clean socks are and worrying about something... unable to make up their mind... Just like the rest of us.

Honesty itself is difficult to sustain, especially honesty with oneself. I try to never be dishonest, but often discretion is the best policy.