Incidentals...
May. 20th, 2008 10:21 amI don't want to live. I want to love first, then live incidentally. - Zelda FitzgeraldI'm not sure how 'incidental' my life is, but this sounds like a good recipe for happiness, if I read it right - a sort of Zen approach, where love is appreciation and acceptance, not desire and demand. Love expands and enhances. Life... goes its own way.
Though the sentence "I don't want to live," sounds suicidal or nihilistic, taken out of context.
All different ways of saying, "A loving person gets more out of life than a person who is mostly focussed on him or herself." But my goodness, it can be so difficult to break out of cycles of emotional need.