Mother's Day Retrospective
May. 12th, 2003 07:47 amI found myself a little annoyed by the hype of Mother's Day: part of me thinking, "Leave me alone, okay? I miss her." Another thought came to me at one point: "They talk about Christmas being depressing, but to someone whose mother is dead and greatly missed, and who never had children but desperately wanted to, Mother's Day is far more depressing."
Don't get me wrong: I wasn't depressed, I had a great day, I had fun with my firends, I can put it all in perspective - but that doesn't mean the pain isn't there, needing to be dealt with.
It doesn't mean I don't miss my mother, who was one of the best people I have ever known. It isn't that we didn't fight sometimes like any mother and daughter do, or that she was any kind of perfect person. It does mean that through all the time I knew her, I loved and respected her and thought she was terrific, and knew with absolute certainty that she thought the same about me.
I really lucked into one of the best mothers ever.
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The question yesterday was: name three things you loved about your mother.
And I find it surprisingly hard to break it down to characteristics. There are things I loved about her because I loved her - the way, even when her hair went grey, she had a red streak over her right temple; she way she loved our pets so much; the way she mac-tacked book bindings when they broke.... But that's all secondary, that's just because it was her.
Okay - deep breath - let's try:
1. she was always honest with me, and with herself
2. she saw the best in people, unless she thought they didn't deserve it
3. she was always interested in the world around her
I hope I have her best characteristics, too. Oh,and can I add a gratuitous fourth? I loved the way she used to tell me stories about her family life when she was very young. It was a glimpse of history through perceptive eyes.