Mutual respect...

[fajrdrako]

From Livejournal's Writer's Block today: If your romantic partner told you that, given the chance, he or she would sleep with a celebrity/public figure you disrespect, would you be amused, jealous, or bewildered? How would they react if the situation were reversed?

I think one of the worst things one can do in any sexual relationship is critique one's partner's sexual fantasies. Especially if they horrify you. A fantasy is a fantasy: we can't even control our own attractions and whims, let alone someone else's. Trying to do so is a recipe for unhappiness.

That being said, I can't imagine any fantasy lover a partner of mine could imagine that I would "disrespect" in any way that mattered. The world contains many people I don't like, but it my partner wanted to fantasize about George Bush, Mahmoud Ahmadinejad, or Larry O'Brien, my worst reaction would be amusement. Whatever floats your boat.

I would hope my partner would feel the same. And I would hope we would both feel free to talk about it and laugh about it, with all sorts of degrees of mutual acceptance and toleration.