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[fajrdrako]

thefridayfive:

1) How would you define beauty? Anything or anyone that it's a pleasure to look at.
2) What is the best quality a person can have? Kindness.
3) What is the worse quality a person can have? Cruelty.
4) What makes up your perfect match? Good chemistry.
5) Have you met this person yet? In several forms. I don't believe "there can be only one".

Comments

[duncanmac.livejournal.com]

3) What is the worse quality a person can have? Cruelty.

Methinks the definition of "cruelty" can be too vague. After all, are puns a form of "cruelty?" I *know* we disagree on this point. :-)

OTOH, four-letter words may grate on my nerves (and yours), but I wouldn't class them as a form of cruelty. Just a bad smell.

[xinef.livejournal.com]

I agree with your comment 'I don't believe "there can be only one".' re #5.

[fajrdrako.livejournal.com]

Methinks the definition of "cruelty" can be too vague.

I think the definition is clear for me: cruelty is anything which causes suffering.

By this definition, of course your puns are cruel. You don't realize it, and this is actually a serious issue (to my eyes). People are often cruel unintentionally, or becuase they think they are in the right, or because they feel they have been wronged. often it is obliviousness to the suffering they cause, simply because they are bline to it. As you are. You simply cannot undererstand our reaction; your disbelief is clear. You think if you repeat them, we'll "get it", and somehow magically like it instead of hating it. Since you like it. But life doesn't work that way. You just turn other off by doing it. I'd be more likely to invite you over for a Doctor Who party, for example, if I thought I could be sure you wouldnt' do that. Because I REALLY CAN'T STAND IT. My careful politeness when you have done it before may have misled you in the past. I was... dismayed... when you punned yesterday. I'd thought you were improving. But you know what? The only difference is that my standards rose and my tolerance lessened. I expected more of you.

And yes, obviously we disagree on this point! But I fear you are joking, and I am dead serious.

Four letter words don't bother me in the least, though it's fairly circumstantial. I don't like it when they express anger, for example, but it's the anger I don't like, not the words themselves. I like the four-letter words with sexual meanings when they are used legitimately and literally. That's because I like writing and reading about sex. Nice positive connatations.

[fajrdrako.livejournal.com]

If there were, life would be far more hopeless and depressing than it actually is. I am happy to say that love is broad and deep and, like water, expands to fill the shapes it's given.

[xinef.livejournal.com]

If there really were only one perfect match, then what about folks who remarry, happily, after the death of the first spouse. Duh. So many reasons I find that belief to be misguided and just wrong.

[fajrdrako.livejournal.com]

Yes - perplexingly so. I'm not sure why anyone would want it to be true. It seems sort of narrow.

[duncanmac.livejournal.com]

Ow ... Ow ... Ouch.

Sigh. Yes, you're right; I play with words all the time, and did not realize that it actually causes the kind of pain that makes you yelp I REALLY CAN'T STAND IT.

To quote the Thompson twins (les frères Dupon(d)t, from Tintin): Je dirais même plus: Aïe.

I will have to think about (and work) on it.

[fajrdrako.livejournal.com]

did not realize that it actually causes the kind of pain that makes you yelp I REALLY CAN'T STAND IT.

Part of the problem is: I don't know how to communicate that. I say (and have said) in various ways how much it bothers me, and I've yet to meet a pun-maker who paid any attention. My problem, not theirs, of course, but it does make me avoid the company of certain people. It seems to be part of the mindset: those who do it are incapable of stopping, or of perceiving a need to tone it down and desist. Short of loudly screaming at them, which makes me look churlish, or walking out of the room, what can I do? (Actually, I've done the later, though not with you, as far as I recall.)

I dunno. I was feeling stressed today so my tolerance level was low. Hopefully I'll be able to cope better in future.